This post is based on my podcast, episode 19 at The I’ve Got You Mama Podcast
You can listen to the full episodes here, or continue reading below.
Have You Ever Felt Yourself Changing in Motherhood?
Have you ever looked around at your life and realized how much of who you are has been shaped by caring for everyone else?
Not in a sad or regretful way and not because motherhood hasn’t been meaningful.
But because for so many years, your energy naturally went outward first.
And maybe now—whether your children are growing, your season is shifting, or you finally have just a little more space to breathe—something inside you is quietly waking back up again.
A desire.
A dream.
Creativity.
Rest.
Movement.
Joy.
Not necessarily for a completely different life…
just for a deeper connection with yourself again.
Motherhood Changes You - And That Isn’t Always a Bad Thing
There’s a lot of messaging right now about “not losing yourself in motherhood.”
And while I understand the heart behind that conversation, I’ve found myself feeling a little conflicted by it too.
Because honestly?
When I look back at the last couple of decades of raising my children, I don’t feel regret about how deeply I gave myself to my family.
Some of the most meaningful growth in my life came through loving and serving them.
Motherhood stretched me, softened me, and refined me.
It has taught me patience, empathy, flexibility, sacrifice, wonder, and perspective in ways I may never have learned otherwise.
And I think that matters.
The Ways Motherhood Quietly Shapes Us
For me, one of the biggest shaping experiences was homeschooling my six children.
People often tell me:
“I could never do that. I’m not patient enough.”
But the truth is… I wasn’t naturally patient either.
Over time, I realized homeschooling wasn’t just something I was giving to my children.
It was also shaping me.
Now, homeschooling itself isn’t the point here. It was simply one of the vehicles God used in my life to form me into who I was becoming.
And I think we all have experiences like that.
Different callings, different seasons and different responsibilities that stretch us into growth we never expected.
Sometimes the very things we think are “interrupting” our growth are actually the things shaping it most deeply.
What My Children Helped Me See About Myself
One of the most unexpected gifts of motherhood was the way my children changed how I saw myself.
I watched traits in them that I once worried about in myself—and realized those traits weren’t flaws at all.
I learned to see the child who couldn’t sit as adventurous and creative.
The deeply sensitive child I saw as empathetic and intuitive.
And the competitive child developed incredible drive and determination.
And slowly, I began wondering:
What if some of the things I’ve criticized in myself… are actually strengths too?
Motherhood gave me the opportunity to see humanity with softer eyes.
Including my own.
Motherhood Isn’t Where I Lost Myself
Of course there were difficult, exhausting and overwhelming seasons.
Sometimes motherhood can feel like giving every ounce of yourself away.
But honestly?
When I look at all motherhood has taught me and all I’ve become because of it, I can say this with so much gratitude:
Motherhood isn’t where I lost myself.
I think it’s one of the places I found myself most deeply.
And I would do it again and again because of what it gave back— to me, to my children, and to our family.
But Growth Doesn’t End There Either
For a long time, I pushed that part of myself aside because there were practical things to do and people to care for.
And again, I don’t regret that season.
But I’m realizing there’s another kind of becoming now too.
One that includes a little more space to reconnect with the parts of myself that have been patiently waiting.
Not apart from motherhood, but right alongside it.
You Are Allowed to Become Again
Maybe you’re in a season where your children are growing up and life feels different.
Or maybe you’re still deeply in the thick of motherhood with little kids and full days and very little margin.
Either way, becoming is still happening.
You do not have to reinvent yourself overnight, but maybe there’s value in pausing long enough to ask:
- Who am I becoming in this season?
- What is this season shaping in me?
- Is there a part of me quietly asking for more space to breathe someday?
Because growth doesn’t stop once we become mothers, and reconnecting with yourself does not mean you love your family any less.
You Don’t Have to Choose
I think that’s what I’m learning most right now.
You don’t have to choose between:
- loving your family deeply
and - reconnecting with yourself too.
You’re allowed to nurture both and you’re allowed to grow too.
Listen to the Full Podcast Episode
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Hello there!
I’m Maria—homeschooling mama of six, Lita to two, master life coach, and creator of Joyful Reinvention. After walking through my own seasons of burnout, I now help moms shift from surviving to thriving with a blend of mindset, holistic wellness, and habit change. Joyful Reinvention was born to help you heal from the inside out and build a life you truly love. When I’m not coaching, you’ll find me chasing sunsets, exploring new places, or adventuring with my big, beautiful family.